Monthly Archive for September, 2007

It Could Be…

It could be because we watched Law and Order SVU’s season premier in all it’s stereotypical multiple personality murderous evil alter and faker glory- the caveat being we watched it with the mother in a hotel room the night before her numerous doctor appointments simply because we forgot to prepare the taping of it before we left our home that night.

It could be because the mother was clueless at first about what was going on and so we explained it was stereotypical mp and here’s the child, that’s the teen, that’s the protector. Not really speaking to her after explaining that it was mp, but mostly speaking softly aloud to ourselves in exasperation at the flagrant dramatized stereotypes.

It could be because Dr. Huang (on SVU) provided the reminder to the mother and educational information that DID is caused by trauma, particularly sexual abuse. The psychological community perspective that is. And the thing (sexual abuse and DID) that isn’t discussed between us but known very well between us. The tension and uncomfortableness in the air was so icky.

It could be because we were essentially trapped in this hotel room with the mother and torn between wanting to watch it, albeit the stereotypes, because we forgot to tape it and now the mother was interested in watching it as well. Strangely though she fell asleep halfway through it and wanted to know the outcome of it in the morning.

It could be because this past Tuesday we informed the mother that we had reached the top of the waiting list for a low-income apt in the ‘big city’ and to expect a possible reference check since we have lived with her in the past 5 years. Thankfully though for almost a year we’ve been on our own in a suburb about 20 minutes away from her.

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not doing good

we’re not doing good and we don’t really know why.  struggling to not cut and stuff like that.  maybe just stuff going on inside, and stuff from the past.  maybe stuff from the present.

just a lot of sadness and heaviness.  having a hard time being big and grown-up and staying outfront and stuff to do those adult things.  we’re feeling pretty overwhelmed too with some stuff.  need to go to sleep but can’t seem to sleep.  fell asleep on couch cuz couldn’t sleep in bed last night.

just sadness and so much achyness inside. i know that isn’t a word for reals.

wonder if the others on the otherside will talk to Cec this year.  really don’t know for sure.  so many inside have remained hidden from Cec.  so many Wendy knows and so few Cec know.  it makes us extra sad for that.  sad that it is that way. sad that it is what it is. sad that it takes so long to trust and feel safe.

just deep sadness about a lot of stuff.

hope to have energy to write more about stuff later.  didn’t get the chance or have the energy or be around outfront even to write those things for thursday. oh well.  maybe another time.

Come Join The Pity Party

When: Thursday, September 27, 2007

Where: Blogging Land

What To Bring: Your many thoughts, feelings, complaints, whines, issues, and anything and everything you wish to freely add to the pity party. The more the better!

Inspired by Enola:

Enola’s Pity Party Blog Entry

Check out this entry by Austin:

Austin’s Pre-Pity Party Thoughts

I think I’m going to do this even though I’m unprepared for it.  In its own strange way, it is daunting to me/us and frightening to do at the same time.  Weird.

Julie/s