Comments on: hidden struggles http://www.multiplereflections.org/journal/2008/03/15/hidden-struggles/ Thu, 10 Feb 2011 04:04:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Melissa http://www.multiplereflections.org/journal/2008/03/15/hidden-struggles/comment-page-1/#comment-556 Melissa Mon, 17 Mar 2008 01:59:27 +0000 http://www.multiplereflections.org/journal/2008/03/15/hidden-struggles/#comment-556 i am glad to see you posting cause i was getting a little worried about you. sorry you're having a rough time and we know those dates are like that. just try to do a few things for yourself okay? i'm sorry there is so much yuck and we wish and hope things get better soon. As far as the male thing, it makes total sense to me that that would be difficult for you. it is good you are seeing this and having that aha moment. when we have these it means perhaps you can do something with it. i am proud of you for the new apartment and actually handling it pretty well given the OCD and stuff. you will get there so continue to be patient with yourself and know it does not have to be perfect so you do not get overwhelmed. just one thing at a time. hugs melissa i am glad to see you posting cause i was getting a little worried about you.

sorry you’re having a rough time and we know those dates are like that. just try to do a few things for yourself okay? i’m sorry there is so much yuck and we wish and hope things get better soon.

As far as the male thing, it makes total sense to me that that would be difficult for you. it is good you are seeing this and having that aha moment. when we have these it means perhaps you can do something with it.

i am proud of you for the new apartment and actually handling it pretty well given the OCD and stuff. you will get there so continue to be patient with yourself and know it does not have to be perfect so you do not get overwhelmed. just one thing at a time.

hugs
melissa

]]> By: Sean http://www.multiplereflections.org/journal/2008/03/15/hidden-struggles/comment-page-1/#comment-554 Sean Mon, 17 Mar 2008 00:13:21 +0000 http://www.multiplereflections.org/journal/2008/03/15/hidden-struggles/#comment-554 This particular person you are talking about probably understands the issues you're dealing with pretty well. This particular person you are talking about probably understands the issues you’re dealing with pretty well.

]]> By: jumpinginpuddles http://www.multiplereflections.org/journal/2008/03/15/hidden-struggles/comment-page-1/#comment-555 jumpinginpuddles Sun, 16 Mar 2008 23:26:41 +0000 http://www.multiplereflections.org/journal/2008/03/15/hidden-struggles/#comment-555 we have just moved as you know and we are also have zone out moments whereas we werent before its also nearly easter our birthday is on easter saturday this year and many other stresses it seems to us you are coping all of you the best way you can and losing time is one of the results of stress in a multiples life please know you arent alone we have just moved as you know and we are also have zone out moments whereas we werent before its also nearly easter our birthday is on easter saturday this year and many other stresses it seems to us you are coping all of you the best way you can and losing time is one of the results of stress in a multiples life please know you arent alone

]]> By: Austin http://www.multiplereflections.org/journal/2008/03/15/hidden-struggles/comment-page-1/#comment-553 Austin Sun, 16 Mar 2008 21:29:58 +0000 http://www.multiplereflections.org/journal/2008/03/15/hidden-struggles/#comment-553 To use the word friend implies trust. You don't trust males because of being abused by them. A friend is someone you let in your private world to whatever degree. You let them in with vulnerability. When a survivor lets in the gender that abused them issues will arise. We as humans see with limited abilities. We group gender and race together when something bad happens. We just do. So it makes perfect sense to me that when using a strong word like friend in connection to the gender you were abused by that issues would arise. For me, I have a limited trust for women, especially black women. Why? My main abuser is a black woman. I see with human eyes. My sight is limited, my humanity and experiences cause my focus of trust to exclude most women. This is not an uncommon thing with survivors at all. Your reaction is normal. Austin To use the word friend implies trust. You don’t trust males because of being abused by them.

A friend is someone you let in your private world to whatever degree. You let them in with vulnerability. When a survivor lets in the gender that abused them issues will arise. We as humans see with limited abilities. We group gender and race together when something bad happens. We just do. So it makes perfect sense to me that when using a strong word like friend in connection to the gender you were abused by that issues would arise. For me, I have a limited trust for women, especially black women. Why? My main abuser is a black woman. I see with human eyes. My sight is limited, my humanity and experiences cause my focus of trust to exclude most women. This is not an uncommon thing with survivors at all. Your reaction is normal.

Austin

]]> By: risingrainbow http://www.multiplereflections.org/journal/2008/03/15/hidden-struggles/comment-page-1/#comment-552 risingrainbow Sun, 16 Mar 2008 16:36:07 +0000 http://www.multiplereflections.org/journal/2008/03/15/hidden-struggles/#comment-552 Im sorry that you are having a difficult time right now. Moving must only add to your stress. I hope things settle for you soon. Thinking about you. Im sorry that you are having a difficult time right now. Moving must only add to your stress. I hope things settle for you soon.

Thinking about you.

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