we are having a really hard time. there’s just no energy and no ability to get anything done and yet we are surrounded with so many things we need to do. there’s even some pressure (mostly pressure we put on ourselves but not necessarily so far off of reality that the pressure is there in other forms outside us) to get some things done around the house and stuff. it’s just so damn hard lately.
i think it’s cuz we’ve been working so very hard in therapy and it is taking its toll on us. i guess we’re supposed to expect or at least be able to cope with the after effects of therapy but it is so so hard and painful and so exhausting. we are wondering if we need to pull back some and slow down some of the stuff but we think others inside are just focused on pushing harder and pushing forward on things and that we can cope with it. well some of us think not! the sadness entrenches us. how do we get rid of it? i mean besides making it go away but really it doesn’t go away just somewhere buried inside.
we think too all this therapy and crap is just too much for the other Julies as they just get so worn out easily by lots of stuff and especially since they are kind of working through some of this with us, well ya know, vicariously working through the stuff they know about and are aware of. it doesn’t take too much emotions and therapy stuff to totally wipe out the Julies if they can’t stay far enough away from it.
we are wondering if we need to do a forced dissociation in order to get stuff done but not sure how long it would really last. but like in therapy when things are too much or have hit a strong triggering point where the ones pushing to do the talking and telling and emotions and stuff have pushed as far as they can against the ones trying to keep everything silent and nothing happened its not true and all that stuff, well, a weird kind of jolt and snap and jerk of the head and boom we are totally fine and nothing happened, it’s not true, no feelings, nothing, just utter and totally fine and okay and perfectly normal with no problems and no issues. so like maybe we need to try and use that as sort of a forced thing when we’re like this. not sure if we can but maybe we could try and see. and we have no idea if we can control it like that but guess it is worth trying. but doing any of that by itself takes energy too. and we have so little of it. so little physical and so very little emotionally at this point too.
it really sucks being anemic too and we need to schedule an appt with our regular dr. because looking online it talks about how it is important to find out the cause of it. maybe then we can actually get our vit b12 and folic acid and vit d and whatever else needs to be checked as possible causes of anemia. we’ve been wanting our vit b12 and vit d checked for so long but always afraid to just ask outright and afraid if the dr. says no b/c for whatever reason it isn’t “medically necessary” or they don’t want to b/c we didn’t convince them enough that it is merited then we are screwed in the future and will have to prove so much harder that it is medically necessary to have evaluated. we are pretty sure they are totally low and we need vit b12 shots and special vit d pills. we just suspect it is also contributing to our problems. our sleep dr. tested and found the anemia and we’re taking supplements but we’re still exhausted and we know it’s going to take time and we’re also looking at upping the double dosage he is already prescribing to us. we are thinking of taking a different brand and type of iron supplement in addition to the kind and mg he prescribed.
and for all this time, for many years, we’ve thought that our fatigue was associated with our depression and just being a fuck up and stuff. now we’re wondering if we’ve been anemic for years now. our regular dr. checked our iron when we went in to see her awhile back but she didn’t do the extensive testing. the sleep dr did and he found it that way. she just diagnosed us with chronic fatigue syndrome and maybe we have that but maybe we don’t. i don’t know. we just hate being tired all the time. and this has been our life for years now. having no energy to do crap and any small thing (taking shower, emptying dishwasher) wears us out and puts us back to bed to lay down which often leads to several hours of sleep.
so whine, whine, whine. we’re having a hard time. we hurt emotionally and sometimes physically but i think we still dissociate a lot of our body pain. we get weird ass pains in various places in our body but we just cope with it and deal with it. we’re emotionally exhausted and physically exhausted and the depression is just doing its damndest to suck us up and really, we think with the therapy stuff we’re doing lately, we think we’re experiencing a lot of grief even though we’re not sure what exactly it is we’re experiencing other than deep sadness and just our system is struggling.
we can’t put into words yet quite what is going on. sorry this is so stupid. just we hate things right now. it’s so crazy how we can plummet so far and so fast and we forget sometimes how very easy and very close we always are to this place. we’ve been struggling but getting through and we’re used to that… things being hard with varying moments of coping ok and varying crappy times, but now things are not just hard and barely getting through, they just fucking suck and we feel like we’re falling with nothing to hold onto to stop.
stupid us.
julies, and others we think